We employ a spouse-sensitive, trauma-based approach to meet the needs of couples in recovery from sexual compulsivity and addiction.
In our work with couples:
We strongly encourage individual counseling for each partner.
We help to set boundaries to ensure each partner’s safety and integrity.
We prioritize the needs of children.
We emphasize clear, safe communication.
We educate on relational dynamics, trauma and addiction, and apply this knowledge directly.
We work toward increasing understanding and empathy.
We set the foundation for building a new relationship characterized by honesty, transparency, empathy, understanding, and emotional presence.
We move partners toward each other to create a vision for the future.
Restoring Trust and Hope
Our goal is to help spouses and partners approach each other gently and honestly while asserting themselves clearly; thereby restoring confidence and rebuilding trust. We believe that partners in recovery want to learn how to listen and care in order to accept and heal experienced trauma and create a new vision for the relationship.
Steps in restoring trust include a full disclosure of infidelity and acting out behaviors, the sharing of an impact letter by the betrayed spouse or partner, and a letter of emotional restitution presented by the addicted partner. Clinical theories we base our work on include: Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Method, Attachment Theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and the Gottman Method.